Adoption
Adoption is a Great Option
"Adoption is a courageous, selfless parenting decision. Yes, adoption is a parenting decision, which may sound strange to some. Expectant moms who make the decision to place their child for adoption have decided that it would be best for the child to be parented by another family; one who can provide all of the things they may not be able to provide as a parent at that time. Adoption is not abandonment; it’s making a plan for someone else to parent your child. I did not ‘give away’ my baby girl, I prayed through every decision I made for us.”
- Birth Mom & Adoption Advocate
Why adoption?
Why does someone choose adoption for their child?
While the reasons vary, the common thread that links many birth mothers together is the reality of an unplanned pregnancy. Some of the most common reasons an expectant mom—or even a mother who has already given birth—may choose adoption include financial or emotional inability to provide, a lack of a strong support system, absence of support from the father, or the hope that their child will grow up in a stable two-parent home. Other circumstances may include unsafe or unstable living conditions, struggles with mental health or substance use, experiences of sexual assault, incarceration, homelessness, or the inability to care for another child. For some, the decision is also made out of concern that their child might otherwise enter foster care.
Each mother’s decision is deeply personal and unique to her situation. What remains constant is the undeniable love she has for her child—choosing adoption is an act of profound sacrifice, putting her child’s future and well-being above her own heart, needs, and desires.
Do I have control over the adoption process?
Yes! You have the ability to choose the type of adoption that feels right for you. There are three main types: Closed, Semi-Open, and Open.
Closed Adoption
In a closed adoption, the adoption agency selects the adoptive parents, and there is no direct contact between the birth mother and the adoptive family. Some moms choose this option because they feel it’s best for their emotional well-being to have limited involvement. Even with a closed adoption, updates about the child can often be requested through the agency, and some moms later decide they’d like more information.
Semi-Open Adoption
This is the most common type of adoption. In a semi-open adoption, the birth mother chooses the adoptive parents through the agency and usually has the opportunity to meet them before the baby is born. Updates about the child are provided through the agency over the years, and the frequency and details of those updates are agreed upon by both the birth mother and adoptive parents.
Open Adoption
In an open adoption, the birth mother chooses and meets the adoptive family before the baby is born and stays connected afterward. Communication and updates come directly from the adoptive parents, and there are typically visits once or twice a year. Open adoption works best when all parties develop a healthy, respectful relationship, keeping the child’s best interest at the center.
No matter which type of adoption you choose, you won’t walk this road alone. You will have ongoing support through the adoption agency and through Pregnancy Solutions, ensuring you are cared for throughout the process.
Do I have control over the adoption process?
At Pregnancy Solutions, we believe every mom who walks through our doors should feel comforted, supported, and empowered. Adoption is a deeply loving and sacrificial choice, made with the child’s best interest in mind.
We partner with A Bond of Love Adoption Agency, so that you have the resources and information needed to make an informed decision.
If you are interested in learning more about adoption, we would be glad to set up an appointment for you to meet with an adoption counselor. Schedule an intake appointment with us for more information to begin your pregnancy journey.
No matter where you are in your pregnancy, we are here to provide education, encouragement, and support as you consider the decisions ahead.